in-person therapy in los angeles & online across california
For high functioning, anxious people who are tired of losing themselves.
You’ve always been the strong one.
You learned early on how to be responsible — how to keep things moving, stay composed, and manage what needs to be managed. That strength has likely served you in many areas of your life.
People rely on you. You hold yourself to high standards. You push through when you’re tired, even when your body needs to rest. You expect yourself to get it right and do things perfectly on the first try.
But staying strong often meant setting your own feelings aside. When you do feel hurt, overwhelmed, or unsure, guilt can show up quickly, as if struggling makes you weak.
Over time, it became harder to tell what you actually feel versus what you think you should feel. You got used to holding things in, staying composed, and pushing through, and it’s harder to know what you want, separate from what’s expected of you.
And even when everything looks fine on the outside, something inside feels heavy.
You might see parts of yourself in this:
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You notice shifts in tone. You try to smooth things over. You work hard to keep relationships steady.
When something feels off, your first instinct if often to assume it’s your fault. It can feel safer to adjust yourself than risk being misunderstood or rejected.
It’s a lot to carry, and you’ve been carrying it quietly.
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You replay conversations, and you also rehearse future ones. You overanalyze the smallest decisions. You anticipate outcomes. You think through every angle, trying to make sure you don’t miss something important.
It’s hard to know when you’ve thought something through “enough.” The mental noise is exhausting, and hard to explain to anyone else.
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You expect a lot from yourself — at work, in relationships, in how you show up. When you fall short, even slightly, the self-criticism can be harsh.
It can feel like if you just try harder, do better, get it right, you’ll finally feel secure. But the bar keeps moving.
Underneath the drive is often a fear of not being enough.
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When you feel hurt, disappointed, or even angry, your first response might be to question yourself. You minimize. You rationalize. You tell yourself it’s not a big deal, while the feelings build quietly in the background.
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When you’ve spent years focusing on what works for everyone else, your own preferences can feel hard to access. You might know what you should want. You might know what looks good on paper. But knowing what feels right for you is less clear.
That uncertainty can feel unsettling, especially when everyone else seems so sure.
There is a way to live that feels more like you— and we’ll find it.
I work with high-functioning, anxious people who are tired of living in their heads and disconnected from themselves.
In therapy, we slow things down. We make sense of the patterns that feel automatic, such as the overthinking, the guilt, the pressure to be perfect. Not to judge or shame them, but to understand how they once helped you feel safe.
As an existential therapist, I’m interested in the deeper questions beneath the anxiety— how you learned to relate the way you do, what you had to carry growing up, and how you want to live moving forward. We explore identity, choice, and meaning, not in an abstract way, but in the very real decisions you make every day. What does it look like to live in a way that feels aligned with your values? To build a life that feels solid on the inside, not just successful on the outside?
From there, I’ll help you build something stronger: a clearer sense of who you are, greater trust in what feels right to you, and the ability to tolerate discomfort without abandoning yourself.
Over time, you’ll feel more grounded and present in your life, more self-trusting, and more at ease with yourself.
My specialties:
Where lasting change begins.
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For those who often feel on edge — where uncertainty feels hard to tolerate and your mind is always trying to predict what’s going to happen next. Together, we’ll work toward a steadier relationship with your thoughts and a deeper sense of calm.
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For those who prioritize harmony and connection, often at the expense of their own voice. We’ll explore how to stay connected to others while remaining grounded in yourself.
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For those who feel unclear about what feels true for them — separate from expectation, achievement, or external validation. This work centers on clarifying your values and living in closer alignment with them.
How it works
Reaching out can feel like a big step. I try to keep this part simple.
Click this link to schedule a 15-minute free, confidential consultation.
We’ll talk about what’s been weighing on you, what you’re hoping for, and whether working together feels like the right fit. And there’s no pressure to decide on the spot, it’s simple a chance to talk.
If we move forward, we’ll schedule your first session and begin slowing things down — looking at the patterns you’re tired of repeating and building a stronger relationship with yourself and the life you want to build.