ANXIETY · PEOPLE-PLEASING · LIFE TRANSITIONS | Los angeles & online
Therapy for people who never feel like they’re doing enough
You're exhausted from holding yourself to such high standards, often at the expense of your own needs. Therapy offers a space to begin feeling secure in who you are, without constantly having to prove yourself.
No matter how much you accomplish, there's always a feeling that you could be doing more.
Even when things are going well, it's difficult to feel satisfied or fully present in your own life. You're so accustomed to focusing on what's next, what others might think, or what could go wrong that it's become harder to hear your own voice. You may have built a life that looks good from the outside, yet still find yourself wondering whether it's the life you actually want.
Life can begin to feel different when you're no longer measuring yourself against everything you think you should be. It's possible to feel more grounded in who you are, trust your own choices, and find greater ease in your relationships and everyday life.
You might recognize some of this in yourself:
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Even when nothing is wrong, your mind keeps searching for the next problem to solve, prevent, or prepare for.
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You often find yourself managing, anticipating, or worrying about how everyone else is doing while putting your own needs aside.
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Mistakes feel unusually high stakes, and it's hard to shake the feeling that you should be doing more or doing better.
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Asking for what you want can feel uncomfortable, selfish, or like you're somehow letting someone down.
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You've spent so much time focusing on what others need or expect that it can be difficult to hear your own voice.
I’m Stephanie.
There is a way to live that feels more like you— and we’ll find it.
My approach is existential and relational, which means I'm interested not only in the anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or relationship issues that bring you to therapy, but in who you are, how you've come to see yourself, and what happens between us as we explore those questions together. I'll listen closely, notice the patterns that might be difficult to see on your own, and gently challenge you when something deserves a closer look. Together, we'll make sense of those patterns, including how earlier relationships and experiences may have shaped them, while exploring what feels meaningful to you now. Our work is collaborative, thoughtful, and grounded in a genuine human connection.
As a bicultural therapist, I also understand how complicated it can be to find your own voice when family, culture, and personal expectations don't always align. I bring that awareness into our work, making room for the different parts of your identity without assuming what they mean to you.
My hope is that, over time, you'll feel less driven by who you think you should be and more connected to who you actually are. That you'll begin to recognize your worth isn't something you have to earn or continually prove. And that you can move through life with greater trust in yourself, more freedom in your choices, and a deeper sense that who you are is already enough.
My specialties:
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Feel less consumed by overthinking, self-doubt, and the need for certainty. Together, we'll work toward greater self-trust, more confidence in your decisions, and the ability to move through life without constantly second-guessing yourself.
Click here to learn more about how I work with anxiety and chronic overthinking.
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Learn how to stay connected to others without losing yourself in the process. Together, we'll help you trust your own needs, feel less responsible for everyone else's feelings, and build relationships that feel more balanced, authentic, and fulfilling.
Click here to learn more about people-pleasing and relational patterns.
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Reconnect with yourself, clarify what matters most to you, and build a life that feels aligned with your values rather than obligation, other people's expectations, or a version of you that you’ve outgrown. This work often includes exploring identity, cultural expectations, and the process of becoming more fully yourself.
How it works
Reaching out can feel like a big step. I keep this part simple.
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Reach out through my contact form to schedule a 15-minute free consultation.
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I will contact you within 48 hours to schedule a consultation. During our call, you'll have the chance to share a little about what's bringing you to therapy, ask any questions you have, and get a sense of what it might be like to work together.
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If we decide to move forward, we'll schedule your first session and begin exploring where you are in your life, what feels important to you, and where you'd like things to be different.